Sharing Halloween as Divorced Co-Parents
Halloween might not be as important an occasion for parents compared to Thanksgiving or Christmas, but you might still find yourselves fighting over the date. Perhaps you cannot wait to see your kids dressed up in costume or you love carving pumpkins with them. If Halloween is a day both you and your co-parent enjoy and want to share with your children, there are ways to enjoy it without arguing and fighting over it.
Working Together to Enjoy the Spooky Holiday
There are several solutions for parents to enjoy Halloween with their children if they are willing to negotiate, compromise, and avoid conflict.
Below are some ideas that can help you develop a solution that best suits your situation:
- Divide the activities: If your favorite part of Halloween is the costume contest at school and your co-parent prefers trick-or-treating or pumpkin carving, split up the activities. You can join your children at school and watch them glow in their best costumes while your co-parent takes them out to trick-or-treat, allowing you to both get what you want out of this holiday.
- Celebrate together: If you and your co-parent are on amicable enough terms, there is no reason to celebrate Halloween separately. You can do it together so that neither of you has to miss out on any memories with the children. Even if you are just civil with one another, your children will appreciate you both being there for them.
- Alternate: If you want to spend the entire day with your children, you can alternate who gets to spend Halloween with the kids every year. For example, you can have the even years and your co-parent can have the odd years.
- Start a new tradition: Just because Halloween is on the 31st of October, does not mean you have to celebrate it on that day. You can start a new tradition with your children by carving pumpkins on a different day. There are many Halloween-themed activities that occur all month-long, so find out what events are happening in your area. You do not need to miss out on all the fun just because you cannot spend the 31st with your kids.
If Halloween is only important to one of you, do not fight your co-parent for the holiday. You can trade for another holiday that is meaningful to you that might not matter to your co-parent. Just make sure you effectively communicate with one another to ensure you reach an agreement that benefits you both and ultimately serves the best interests of your children.